What Does "Decentering Men" Even Mean?
BONUS Episode 6 out now!
Hi crybaby,
It’s Monday again! I know you’re not used to seeing us in your inbox two weeks in a row. But alas, here we are once more, this time with a special bonus episode all about decentering men.
The idea for this show came to me after watching a rather heartbreaking TikTok, in which one woman talks about the dissonance of the messaging she’s received to “decenter men,” while still wanting to experience romantic love with a man.
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Then, I watched a different TikTok, seemingly dismantling the complexities of decentering men and simplifying the stakes.
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These two TikToks are just a drop in the ocean of the overwhelming volume of social media content I’ve seen in recent months about women’s quest to decenter men in their own lives and the tensions they’ve experienced as a result.
It got me thinking, can the two aims coexist? Is it a worthwhile - or even possible - pursuit to try to decenter men from your life while also wanting to have a romantic relationship with a man?
So naturally, I began my descent down the Internet rabbit hole, with the aims of unpacking a few things:
What it means to decenter men
Who decentering men benefits
What decentering men looks like in practice
After doing a bit of reading and research (what some might call #thework), Nthabiseng and I discussed my findings in this week’s episode:
This was such a fun one to put together. I hope you enjoy this one as much as we did recording it. And we want to hear your thoughts on decentering men! You can always leave us a voicemail or drop us an email at heycryaboutit@gmail.com.
Happy listening!🎧